Posted by tabitha on March 7, 2004, at 1:11:43
In reply to Re: Feeling invalidated, angry, confused (kinda long) » Rigby, posted by crushedout on March 6, 2004, at 23:14:01
It's confusing when therapists try to work with feelings they claim you have, but you don't feel directly. I get into a similar situation in my therapy about my mom. My therapist will point out things that look like displaced anger at my mom-- logically it makes sense, but I still can't feel that anger directed at my mom.
Maybe you can think of it through your friends' eyes. If they thought your therapist was violating your boundaries and possibly taking advantage of you.. wouldn't it make sense for them to be angry at her? Even though what they feel is mostly protective of you? Feeling protective can also bring up anger-- anger at the people who are maybe threatening the safety of the people you feel protective toward. Does that make sense? So even if you're mostly aware of feeling protective toward yourself, it might make sense that you'd also have some anger.
Anyway it sounds like a good area to explore with your therapist. I feel hopeful that you can make progress with this complicated dynamic you've got going with her. It sounds very difficult.
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