Posted by fallsfall on February 17, 2004, at 7:28:08
In reply to Ex-Therapist is taking me to Court!!!, posted by Still Hurting on February 17, 2004, at 3:19:19
My heart goes out to you. Your pain must be excruciating.
I hope that, for your sake, you have found a sympathetic therapist who can help you work through this traumatic loss. I know this is possible because I had a traumatic loss as well, and I now have a new therapist who has helped me survive that loss, and move forward in my therapy. If you do not have a therapist who you find helpful to you right now, I sincerely hope that you will find one. Interview a number of therapists until you find one who feels comfortable to you, who is not scared by the postion you find yourself in, and who is strong enough to help you out. They are out there.
I was so terrified when I repeated with my new therapist the things that I believed had made me lose my old therapist. But he kept telling me "I am NOT your old therapist. I am me". Over and over he told me that he was NOT my old therapist and that he would not behave like she did. It's been 8 months and I just about believe him.
So, did I do anything wrong with my first therapist? Probably - if I had no problems I wouldn't need to be in therapy, would I? But I can be forgiven for what I did, and I can learn to control myself better in the future - and I will. Did my first therapist do anything wrong with me? Probably - she is human.
But, with the help of my new therapist, I am growing and learning and hopefully, eventually, I won't need to make that mistake again - I can go on to new and different mistakes! Isn't life grand?
I'm sorry that she took such a hard line with you and felt the need to take this to court. Please understand that she feels that she needs to enforce her boundaries (and she does have the right to do that). Your job, now, is to figure out how to survive outside her boundaries.
I wish you the best.
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