Posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 8:07:20
In reply to Re: Is there an end to Transference and Feelings for T » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on February 7, 2004, at 10:35:43
This post made me think. I used to really want my therapist. I really don't want HIM anymore, I want someone like him, the illusion of someone who will listen to me. So, I'd say I'm not experiencing erotic transference any longer.
On the same note, many times during sessions I would openly say, "You're reaction to this makes me believe you are disappointed in me." He'd get a strange look on his face, because often times he hadn't said a word. It was the fact that I thought of him more of a father than anything else at that time, and saying things that I would assume would make a father disappointed in a daughter, made me believe he was disappointed in me.Nowadays, I don't have intense feelings towards him really. I kind of "believe" I'm in love with him, but not him as a person, maybe just the whole process of having someone listen to me and validate my feelings, as I've never had that before. So, IMO I think I'm through transference. Maybe I'm wrong? I honestly don't put him on the pedestal I did in the past. I don't claim that he's disappointed in me any longer. I'm not even sure where this was going.... Crap!!! One thing though, I've always told him from step one exactly how I feel about him at every point, and that seems to help. If nothing else, to make sense of what I'm feeling...
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