Posted by DaisyM on February 6, 2004, at 14:39:04
In reply to Re: I'm out of Cream of Wheat - Crisis » DaisyM, posted by fallsfall on February 6, 2004, at 8:35:39
There are several things in your post that made me smile -- ummm, my kids "drive" except for the 12year old, so walking? Oh, no! And, this is rural California -- we don't have "corner stores" -- or good public transportation for that matter. We DRIVE everywhere. Slowly. In traffic. But it is on my list today to pick up. I don't mind being self-sufficient in this area.
You are totally right about work. We do need a better distribution and back up plan. I am the "top" boss (she shrugs) and do all of the "business" work of the Agency. My assistant though is very, very good. She could run this place. She just doesn't "know" everything, like how to rob Peter to pay Paul, etc. Or how to beg for people to Please, please pay you...*sigh* It is a control thing, you know? But I know I need to write it all down. In my spare time.
Just last year I restructured so that all of the programs have "program managers." I wanted staff in each department to feel supported so we also instituted "reflective supervision." Meaning, each person gets one-on-one time with a supervisor to problem solve, vent, brainstorm, whatever needs to be done. People love it because they feel heard.
I told my Therapist about this structure one day when I was ranting about a particular senior manager who doesn't do her job but always gets me twisted up to feel like I should be doing her job. Anyway, he said, "so you've set up this really progessive system where everyone has support, professionally and emotionally...but you? Hmmm..." I just never thought I needed it before. Man, was I wrong!!
So I hear you. I'll probably need to hear it again and again. I just feel so responsible all the time.
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