Posted by fallsfall on January 31, 2004, at 18:27:54
In reply to Re: Getting Better, posted by noa on January 31, 2004, at 15:29:24
I appreciate your responses, Noa.
I had said something 2/3 of the way through the session about being afraid that he would think it was unimportant. He glossed over that and didn't really address it (but, we were still very much in the middle of the original discussion). I brought it up again after he said we had to stop. So there wasn't really time to go into it. I'm sure we will on Monday. The way he responded made it clear that he wasn't going to validate me, but that his reason for that decision was NOT that the subject was unimportant, NOR was it that he didn't care about me. I think that if he was going to say "no", that he did it in a pretty clear (and compassionate) way. (But it would have felt better for him to say "yes"...)
He and I haven't talked a lot about validation from others, but I spent some time with my previous therapist talking about it - so I know it is one of my issues.
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