Posted by gardenergirl on January 22, 2004, at 23:27:37
In reply to Re: Crying/Emotions in T's office » QuietHeart, posted by antigua on January 22, 2004, at 20:52:20
Quiet heart (love the screen name, btw)
I used to feel really uncomfortable crying in front of my T or anyone else, although I am a cryer, so I really couldn't help it either. My T responded after I mentioned how embarrassing it was, "anytime you see a room with this many boxes of Kleenex in so many locations (they're EVERYWHERE) then that should tell you it's okay to cry here." It still took awhile for me to not be embarrassed about it and not to try to hold it in so much. But now, what seems to be my way of expressing myself is to just go for it.Of course my T is evil, in that on days I go in and I am determined not to cry, for example, I'm feeling good that day and don't want to feel bad, or I have another appt. right after...he always manages to say that key thing that just opens the floodgates. Dratted man! I think he prides himself on it. Of course I am just kidding here. He knows that crying helps me to re-experience past hurts in order to try to release them or to give them a new meaning in my present life.
Bottom line, we all do therapy different, and you may find you do different things at different times. It helped me to talk about my discomfort about the way I was expressing myself. It may also help you to talk to your T about your concerns.
Good luck,
gg
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