Posted by DaisyM on January 17, 2004, at 18:45:59
In reply to Re: I feel a wee bit uncomfortable » Dinah, posted by judy1 on January 17, 2004, at 10:42:32
I think you just have to be open minded about it. When I started this process I met with a couple of women, I thought I wanted a woman but -- one (who was very very nice) told me if I didn't stop doing all the stuff I was doing I was going to kill myself -- that I needed to be kind to my "inner goddess". Ahh, nope.
The other told me that I would be "much happier if I stopped being such a little actress all the time..." I had gone in with high hopes too because she was an administrator for the group and knew how hard it was to run a company. There were other issues as well.
Anyway, by the time I met the Therapist I have now, I was convienced that I didn't want a woman, I wanted someone who wasn't connected to my work life, who could be somewhat flexible with a schedule like mine and who would NOT talk to be about my inner goddess. The fact that he is he doesn't seem to matter; the fact that he gets me does.
I think it would be hard to work with two people but those are my trust issues. I do think it would be interesting, especially given the length of time you have been seeing you "real" therapist(interesting choice of words by the way. Another perspecive plus being able to revisit your own growth as you get to know this person, will be illuminating.
I would encourage you to not put such tight parameters on what you will and won't do with this
new person. Don't limit yourself before you have to, or her. Not that it isn't hard, but you've wanted something new for awhile. Go for it!
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