Posted by Dinah on January 16, 2004, at 20:16:43
My therapist asked today how I felt about having a female therapist. Well, first of all, I've seen her once. And second, I don't think of her as my therapist. She might be my EMDR therapist if she takes me on, but she's not my therapist. Plus, as I told him, I expect I'll think of her as not really being either sex, like I think of him, but as a therapist. But he didn't want me to not think of her as a woman, because he thinks there is value in having her input as a woman.
My real therapist told me there are things that he doesn't really feel like he can help me with, because he doesn't know what it is like to be a woman. And now I feel sort of bad, like I shouldn't talk to him about those things. Like he expects me to talk about those things with her. But she's just a limited purpose therapist! I'm not going to talk about stuff that has nothing to do with EMDR! I don't think she expects me to, either.
I feel kind of funny about the whole thing. I talked to him about it of course, and he says he doesn't feel uncomfortable about talking about those things and is willing to talk about them. But I just feel like he's trying to foist me off onto someone else. Or at least part of me. :(
How did he go from being so adamant that an adjunct therapist be just that, and that they not interfere with my regular therapeutic relationship, to seeming to want me to establish a therapeutic relationship (beyond stricly EMDR) with this person? I don't understand.
poster:Dinah
thread:301841
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