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Re: Are extra sessions self-indulgent? DaisyM

Posted by Karen_kay on January 6, 2004, at 1:03:15

In reply to Re: Are extra sessions self-indulgent?, posted by DaisyM on January 6, 2004, at 0:35:06

I feel guilty about talking about all the bad stuff instead of finding the silver lining in everything.

* Similar to this, I used to struggle with the fact that I would go in and talk about my childhood. And I felt like I was making my parents out to be horrible creatures. That I would only focus on the bad parts. That my therapist would think my parents were horrible people. And I brought it up to him. He told me that he realizes that there were aspects of my childhood that were both good and bad. But, if I told him the good parts, I would be wasting my money. I'm not there to resolve the good parts of my life, I'm there to resolve the parts that I need to change. It isn't always about finding a silver lining hun. Sometimes that isn't possible. It's about learning how to cope and learning how things are affecting you presently.

I feel guilty about spending so much time making it "all about me."

*But it isn't just about you. This is also affecting your family through you. If you aren't functioning well, then you aren't able to be 100 % for your family. When you are hurting, so is your family. And that hour that you spend away from your family will be well worth it in the long run. Think of it this way, if you don't go, the anxiety will build up all week (do you go weekly/semiweekly, whatever). This HAS an affect on your family! They can feel it! They hear it in your voice, they see it in your eyes! They know when you are hurting. If you can't do it for you, do it for them.


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