Posted by crushedout on December 30, 2003, at 18:53:42
In reply to OK, what do you all think of this???, posted by crushedout on December 30, 2003, at 18:40:13
Perhaps I should add, although some of you may remember this from my previous posts, a little about my history with her and discussing transference. When I told her, several months ago, about my romantic feelings for her, she responded that she "found me very beautiful." I posted here about that and you all told me to ask her why she said that, because it didn't really seem to have any therapeutic value. I agreed and said I would follow up, but never did.At least twice since then she's suggested that we talk about "the sexuality between us" and I've balked, telling her I had other things I needed to talk about, but that we could get to that later. Of course, I never have the nerve to bring it up, even just to ask her what she means by the question. And she gets kind of fuzzy and evasive whenever I put her on the spot.
I'm sure many of you will have reactions to this that may seem to me to demonize her, but try not to, because I have really really strong positive feelings about her, and that will only make me defensive, and not able to take in your advice as readily. That said, I of course want honest input.
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