Posted by Karen_kay on December 17, 2003, at 17:08:31
In reply to my goat......., posted by justyourlaugh on December 17, 2003, at 16:01:02
I just about fell out of my chair laughing! Thank you thank you thank you for some much needed laughter during my stressful time!
As for the silence... Maybe we should switch therapists for a day? Mine just won't shut up. And he told me that when he made tapes for his supervisors they even told him he needed to talk less and leave some time for reflection. I think that your therapist is giving you time to sit with your feelings. Maybe mine realizes I have no feelings, so there is no need to sit with them? :) (That WAS a joke sort of?) You could call him on it, if you are brave. Say, "Why are you so quiet? I feel like you want me to say more, but I don't have anything to say. Am I supposed to say something else?" But I suspect he will comeback with something like "Do you feel the need to say something else," or "Why do you feel that way" or some therapist crap like that.. If I were in that situation, I'd do the stare-off thing... In the beginning, when I was completely resistant and didn't talk to him much I would just sit there and glare at him. And he didn't talk much either. But, I didn't make much progress.I don't make eye contact with mine anymore either. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that he wears glasses and they reflect. I don't like that. Also, most of the things we talk about I'm ashamed of. And since I see him as my "new daddy" that only adds to the shame. It is hard to look someone in the eyes who knows so much about you. But, what if I look him in the eyes and I discover he's crosseyed? That'd suck...
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