Posted by DaisyM on December 17, 2003, at 16:51:39
In reply to Therapy gripe, posted by Karen_kay on December 17, 2003, at 15:08:39
Gee...I'm having a hard time with this one. In fact at my last session my therapist ask me if he was doing anything that bothered me or seemed to be getting in the way. (We were talking about my continual struggle with needing him, feeling like a *problem* client, etc.) I couldn't come up with anything! Not a Golden Fantasy...just that we seem really compatible. Of course, he has been doing this for a long time, so maybe he has worked out his quirks.
He does ask the same question that Dinah hates: What did you bring that up just now? (or some variation). But it doesn't bother me because I usually know why I have. And he asks questions so carefully, gentle most of the time, like he doesn't want to lead.
And silence, well, he doesn't leave things hanging too long. But he gives me enough space to think. I did think once that background music would be nice to fill up the space.
I guess I wish he told more stories -- like about his past experiences or clients, or something. It might normalize things more for me. I mean, he'll say, "that's normal. Most people might feel this or that," but he doesn't say, "once, I had a client who tried..."
I'll think about it some more...
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