Posted by DaisyM on December 12, 2003, at 15:24:05
In reply to Re: Calling for follow-up - (long) » Karen_kay, posted by DaisyM on December 12, 2003, at 14:40:59
I left a message this morning basically saying I felt like I owed him an apology for being so negative and critical yesterday. But that he didn't have to call me if he didn't have time today. (Now, you know I wanted him to call back, right?)
He did! He said all the right things: he didn't think I was being negative about him, I was just despairing, which was not only allowed but understandable. His feelings were not hurt, and if they ever were he would tell me and we would work through it. I said I was worried that he was fed up and "done." He said he could see why I might worry about that, how I might worry that I had pushed him away and he couldn't "hold me." Not true, he said. If my anxiety is about therapy then we will just keep working on it.
He also said we aren't done, not even close. That he can't imagine a scenario where he would just quit, there wasn't anything we couldn't work through and he was in it for the long haul. (now this worries me, how long is long?!)
And, Dinah, you were right. He said he was glad I called.
I'm going to refuse to allow myself to feel bad about calling or get freaked about Monday. At least, I'm gonna try!
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