Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2003, at 16:38:04
In reply to Re: Ok, we worked it out » Dinah, posted by Poet on December 5, 2003, at 16:18:02
Ah Hah! I get mine to admit when he's mad. He used "frustrated" for years, but I finally got him to drop the euphemism. :)
He was mad today. Maybe not about the end result, but definitely during the discussion. But come to think of it, I was mad too. And I was telling him I was mad, after laying lots of groundwork making sure it was safe to be mad. I asked him what would happen and I did stormed out of the room, or yelled. He said that I needed to be responsible in my anger. I answered that what would happen if I wasn't responsible. I was afraid to be angry if I thought it would be the end of the world (i.e. termination). He said it wouldn't be the end of the world unless I killed him, which he had no fear that I would do, or myself. Short of that it wouldn't be the end of the world.
While I was at it, I added a few other irritations that had built up.
But it turned out ok in the end. If not great, at least ok. Maybe the really important thing for me was to know that I could go back. Maybe if we ever try again, I'll just make sure at the outset that we can go back...
poster:Dinah
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