Posted by fallsfall on December 4, 2003, at 7:34:03
In reply to CBT and Transference (long), posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 3, 2003, at 14:52:18
I agree that not talking about it could jeopardize therapy.
Bring it up as open and honest as you can. If he still doesn't want to talk about it, then ask him THEORETICALLY how he handles transference. If he says that he ignores it and works on the current day to day issues, then tell him that is NOT good enough. Ask if he has talked about you in Supervision, if he hasn't then ask him to do that. You can also ask to have a consultation with someone who is more active in dealing with transference (i.e. a Psychodynamic therapist). If you think the CBT that you are getting is good from this guy, you might be able to supplement with a couple of sessions from someone who can help you handle the transference, so you can get back to the CBT. In this case it would be like going to a specialist - not really a big deal.
Tell him the transference is impacting your life outside of therapy (i.e. you are spending time on this message board trying to figure out how to make sense of this, plus my guess is that you are distracted much of the time) - and certainly impacting your therapy.
I let the transference go on too long, because I didn't know what it was. You need help with this - either from him or from someone else.
Good luck.
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