Posted by DaisyM on November 26, 2003, at 18:54:07
In reply to Re: How would Perfect Client Interpret this? » Karen_kay, posted by fallsfall on November 26, 2003, at 17:25:50
I had a tough day yesterday after Monday's session, worrying about so many things. I wrote down Monday night all the questions I had, plus what I posted here. I wrote on Tuesday how much I was struggling and with what, especially about wanting to call and ask what he meant on Monday! (I didn't.)
So my plan was I would read those notes today. It seemed like a good plan until the moment I told him that was what I wanted to do. Then I was really embarressed about it -- but I read him the important stuff and skipped most of the emotional junk. And he seemed ok with that.
In fact, he said he totally felt what I did about Monday, that he felt disconnected from me, the session felt long. He wondered if he was distracted somehow...he said he though he derailed me a couple of times with questions when he didn't mean to. Glad it isn't only my "fault", and it seems we are tuned to the same wavelength, which is good.
Anyway, we did talk about how hard it is to jump in sometimes and get back to a place where you feel safe enough to go deep. I told him I was worried he would get to the "enough" point with me -- If I push away and won't let him help me. Or if I turn around and cling like crazy. He says no, this is just going to take time and he knows that trust is so amazingly difficult for me that I'll continue to waffle between the two extremes.
I left feeling better. At least I read the signal (mostly) right. He did ask a new, hard question -- see post below.
Don't they ever run out of questions?
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