Posted by fallsfall on November 26, 2003, at 7:17:50
In reply to Re: How would Perfect Client Interpret this?, posted by Karen_kay on November 25, 2003, at 20:44:49
I have read that therapists get bored when you are talking about things that don't matter, like what you ate for breakfast. My feeling is that if you are talking about what is important they will not get bored, even if you talk about it over and over and over. I know the feeling of wishing that my therapist would ask "What are you really thinking about" - but, really, the minute we walk into the office, that IS what they say. Why do we need them to say it again? But, I, like you will be sitting there thinking about something, but not telling him - and sometimes he will ask what is going on now, or what was that emotion for, that does make it easier to talk.
It would be so much more efficient if, when we want them to say "What is the real issue", if we could just say that to ourselves and get on with it.
Gee, can you tell I don't know what to talk about in therapy today? I could talk about the transference issue we just finished (phew!), or about whether I try to "please" him and why, or about when I had Meningitis when I was 2, or about how I think I may need to switch careers, or about why I refused to pick a restaurant for Thanksgiving and made my mother do it, or about how when I'm not in a therapy crisis I don't have a life, or about how it is so impossible to decide what to talk about in therapy!!!
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