Posted by DaisyM on November 25, 2003, at 1:08:43
In reply to Re: What was your childhood like? » DaisyM, posted by Elle2021 on November 25, 2003, at 0:33:51
I can only tell you how I did it: I practiced in my head all weekend around a statement that was made the prior week.
As in: "I'm really upset because when we talked about *hugs* I really wanted you to ask me why I hate them...deep breath...deep breath...and I hate them because:"
I told only a little bit at a time and he was very kind and very gentle, saying only, "is there anything else you want to say right now" and then we talked about how it felt to tell. I went home and threw up. LOL. :(
I won't lie to you, since then it has been really hard. We talk about it, and then we talk about other stuff because I can't get back to it. I call him when I'm melting down, or when I feel really exposed and anxious. He has always called back. I'm always surprised.
Everytime I remember something new, it takes me weeks to tell.I usually finally say, "I need to say this and I need you to help me stay focused and get through it."
Don't be surprised if your Therapist is really quiet while you are talking or immediately there after. It isn't shock, or disapproval. It is respect for your risk and space for your pain.
I hope this helps a little tiny bit. Keep posting and practicing until you are ready. I'm surprised to say that I'm *glad* I finally told someone - 30+ yrs. later.
-D
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