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therapy annoyances (long)

Posted by joslynn on November 21, 2003, at 10:29:47

Therapy Annoyances

1. In my last session with my therp, she happened to mention in the course of conversation that I had a very distinctive voice. Huh? I asked her what she meant and she backed down and said, well, I guess everyone has a distinctive voice. But now I am wondering what she meant by that, do I have this annoying Fran Drescer voice and no one has told me??!! I am being half facetious here, but it really has been bothering me. Do I sound like Lisa Simpson? Or maybe itís something good, like Lauren Bacall. I always sound goofy on my answering machine, but I thought everyone thinks that about their voice. Hmmm.

2. In my last session with my Pdoc (who also does therapy with me) he said he could help me with this little administrative detail. I wonít say what it is, in case he is lurking, though I doubt he has time for that. It wasnít anything urgent or even directly related to me, but when I was talking about it, he said, oh, I think I could get that piece of information for you, call me if you decide you need it.

I called him later and left a msg saying if you can, I would appreciate the detail. I said it wasnít a rush. A week later, I called again to ask if he got my msg. He said oh yes, and itís good you reminded me, because Iím going to a conference this week and Iím sure I can get the info. He definitely said "Iím sure." Phrases like that set off the "promise-meter" in my mind. It becomes an expectation.

That was about five days ago and no word from him. For all I know, he couldnít get the info after all or he does not think I need it right now and will just pass it along at my next session. It doesnít concern my health and itís not urgent, although I really would like it before my next session, which is in two weeks. It sort of concerns someone else Iím worried about, itís kind of a favor for them. Itís something that would be easy for him to get and itís not unethical or anything.

Does he care so little about me and those I care about? I refuse to call to nag him again.

I feel hurt that he hasnít called with the info or called to say he couldnít get it. Feelings surface of "well, that just proves he doesnít really care about me" etc. This is silly, because when I am very upset and need to talk, because my therp is out of town or I want to talke to both of them, he almost always gets back to me pretty quickly.

Only one time he didnít, and he sort of had an excuse which wasnít good enough for me, but he also apologized, said he was sorry, said I deserved better than how he acted and it was ok for me to be mad at him, etc. He spent over half an hour on the phone apologizing and making sure things were right with us. So it had a good resolution.

But now, about this other matter, this little part of me feels like, he SAID he was SURE he could get the info, itís one little piece of info, was he lying, did he forget about me, waaahhh! He doesnít love me.

Then I imagine being really cold to him at my next session, perhaps saying, you know what, I can just do fifteen-minute sessions from now on, just give me the scrip, I wouldnít want you to trouble yourself with the burden of pretending to care. Very cool and dry. (P.S. In this fantasy, I would have my hair slicked back in a tight french twist and be wearing a sophisticated 1920s suit. LOL)

All because of a detail that does not directly concern my mental or physical health. It is not the detail, it is almost like a test I am subconsciously giving him. I want him to jump at ALL my needs, even the ones I downplay. I know this is asking too much. Yet part of me wants it, not for the detail, but so that he can prove himself to me.


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