Posted by naiad on November 19, 2003, at 23:11:36
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my therapist » raindancer, posted by april8 on October 30, 2003, at 23:38:06
April,
Thank you for your wonderful explanantion of transference. I have read Deborah Lott's book (In Session) which was helpful but you really clarified how one could benefit from these strong and baffling feelings.
I fell in love with my therapist relatively soon after beginning to work with him but I was afraid to talk to him about it for quite awhile. Finally,with much fear and trembling, I told him and lo and behold he was understanding and none of my fears (that he would tell me to "go away" or that he would want to begin an affair with me) occurred. The funnny thing is that once I realized that an affair was really not going to happen, I was quite sad. I felt grief over loss of my fantasy. Even though the feelings have quieted to a degree, they are still "in the therapy room."
My question is: how will transference benefit me? I certainly relate to your idea that it is the love I didn't get as a child. Is there anything else that might be helpful? Thanks again.
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