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Re: This is bad?? DaisyM

Posted by karen_kay on November 14, 2003, at 17:11:58

In reply to Re: This is bad??, posted by DaisyM on November 14, 2003, at 16:59:07

> I think you are being too hard on yourself. Think of it this way, in the "old" days, before the internet, clients actually had to "stalk" their therapist to get any information or relief from their questions -- and this had to be so much worse than just typing something into a box from the safety of your own home - while they are safe in theirs. I agree that anything on the net is fair game - it isn't like you paid for a private detective search.
> Thanks for the reassurance. I told my sister about it and she will not stop teasing me.

> As to your disappointment -- try turning it around, or maybe inside - out. He obviously isn't only interested in "skin deep" which is good and maybe she pursued him since he is so "yummy." :)
> and yummy he is!! I just hope she treats him as well as he deserves, you know? :(

> I guess the question for you to think about is how would you expect him to help you get over this crush? He can't exactly give you a list of his bad traits, you already know he is off limits and you've talked about it before with him. I think a replacement object is in order -- are there possibilities in your life? (married, boyfriend, etc?) I'm also guessing you made light of the subject, perhaps lighter than you should have, since it is now an issue. Maybe a thoughtful conversation about your tendency to develop crushes will do the trick. Just "thypking" (typing thoughts) out loud. Good luck! -D
> I just can't understand why he won't help me to get over the crush. I do have to thank you because you always seem to be so helpful to me. I called and left him a voice mail saying that we need to find a way to resolve my crush on him, as it is interfering with my therapy. I had to leave it on voicemail because I refuse to discuss it seriously with him during our sessions. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and the problem is that he overheard me making a comment aobut my therapist with my sister one day. Now he makes fun of me for it. He always says "are you going to see your boyfriend today?" But, I know he is very annoyed by it. And, having this crush also stops me from beign completely honest with my therapist, especially about a lot of issues I have aobut sex. And, these crushes are a pattern I tend to have, typically on professors and bosses. So, I should take care of it once and for all! Thanks Daisy! You have been helpful, as always! Karen


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