Posted by Medusa on October 8, 2003, at 15:31:49
In reply to Re: Therapy groups as social resources » Medusa, posted by Tabitha on October 8, 2003, at 14:43:06
> But it still seems to provide some of my minimum requirement of human contact.
>Got it. I hope I didn't seem unsupportive of your approach to getting the human contact you need. I misunderstood what you meant by "social".
> I seem to get in trouble when I try to use 'fun' friends for support, and vice versa. I just end up disappointed. Someday maybe I'll know people who serve both purposes. Or maybe I'm expecting something that doesn't make sense.
>Please be civil. (Smirk.) Seriously, that's an interesting question. I know a few people who are both fun and supportive ... but way too many people use "fun" as a means to get support. Which is another story. I have a hard time having "fun" with people who don't have anything else going. And I can't be supportive for someone all the time, if they're just sucking energy out of me and there's zero contribution from their side. Worst of all are the cases who suck me dry, then complain that we're not having fun.
But this was supposed to be about you, not about my skewed impressions of social interaction.
Um, about your therapist pushing you to do personal ads to meet people ... gosh, I met over a hundred men that way over the course of about 20 months. It made me really good at sizing people up fast, and honed my "thanks-but-no-thanks" skills. I perfected the art of the 11-minute-decaf. I really don't know that personal ads deliver anything else.
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