Posted by Rigby on October 3, 2003, at 10:00:08
Hi All,
Would love to get your take on this. Briefly, I've had "boundary issues" with my therapist--her admission, she got "lost" with me.
Yesterday, I come in and there's a bouquet of flowers--still with a ribbon on them--not on a desk or table *but* sitting on the floor with a little bucket with water. Note: her office is large, with a large desk in the back area where these could have easily been placed. But they're nearly in the middle of she and I. So I ask, "Is it your birthday?" and she nods, coyly, nearly bursting, 'no' so then, "Your anniversay?" again another nod no, smiling, and then I say, "You can't tell me?" and she nods, Yes.
Like how Grammar School is that? I feel like I was baited or something. She had several minutes to go put them away but why leave them there for me to ask?
Then we went through some difficult stuff and at the end she says, "I'm afraid we'll have to end now" and I say,"Thank god." And she looks all hurt that I said this--gives me this pitiful look and I sorta feel like I have to apologize for having said this which I do (dumb, I know.)
Finally, she never used to wear revealing clothes. The last few sessions she's taken to wearing a rather tight sweater--unusual I thought but of course I kind of liked it (I'm gay, she used to be but is now married.) I've remarked that I like the color so she wore it again yesterday. Is this a coincidence? Am I being ultrasensitive and paranoid?
What do you guys think?
Thanks.
Rigby
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