Posted by bucky on October 3, 2003, at 6:38:53
In reply to I really don't want to talk about this, posted by HannahW on September 24, 2003, at 21:10:37
Hannah----first off, good work that you are staying so true to your "gut" feelings, as confusing as they may be sometimes. When you mentioned that you feel sick to your stomach after your sessions, well....that's a lotta information. I think our body "radar" picks up on what does and does not resonate for us. I agree that giving this gal a few more goes at it, or even telling her what bodily sensations you are experiencing after working with her may open a door. If not, your tummy will continue to crawl into fetal position inside of you and broadcast out to you the "this doesn't feel right" sense of the whole relationship. These things take time and require us to practice some patience and the ability to just "hang out" with ambiguous feelings that arise. I have been in therapy with many different folks over the last 20 years. And finding a good fit is a gift to be celebrated. Sometimes difficult relationships at first end up evolving into good fits. But if that clenched gut/queasy feeling continues, take from one who put up with that for TWO years before breaking from one therapist. She just wasn't for me, no slight meant towards her. I kept thinking my issues were being "lit up" around her, and that is why my gut tweaked. Came to find out, no, I just didn't feel safe or properly partnered with this gal. I wish you luck here...you will find someone to help you deal with that "soft spot" inside that we all have, whether you call it your core stuff or inner child, whatever. And yes, all the abandonment/rejection stuff will come floating up, because these things "guard the castle" so to speak. Wish you the best....stay true to yourself and what your body tells you.
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