Posted by Newcomer on August 21, 2003, at 14:27:33
In reply to Re: therapist revelations, posted by bookgurl99 on July 10, 2003, at 22:58:58
It's good to get other people's first-hand views on transference. I had therapy for the first time a while back and had a whole transference / regression thing going on with my therapist. I spent a lot of time imagining I was a small child and he was my dad. I just wanted to snuggle up to him to the point that it was overwhelming.
I didn't tell him partly because I didn't understand what was going on and partly because I was acutely embarrassed. I thought about him all the time and after three months I stopped the therapy because I could barely function - I felt like a small child the whole time and I wanted him to look after me - not a good state to be in when you run a business.
When I stopped going it was like cutting off my arm. It took nearly six months for me to stop obsessing about him. I used to park near his house at night-time and sit there in the dark just to feel close to him.
I feel ok now but the therapy stirred up a lot of old feelings and left everything unresolved. After that it seemed I needed therapy still but I couldn't trust myself in a face-to-face scenario so I got some on-line help with a woman therapist. She said it might help to go back to him and talk about it with a view to working through it, but I'm wary about going through the same thing.
The book by Deborah Lott sounds interesting, think I'll get that.
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