Posted by bookgurl99 on June 16, 2003, at 21:48:21
In reply to Termination, posted by fallsfall on June 15, 2003, at 20:12:03
fallsfall,
if it makes you feel better, i did a search on my therapist too. it helped me find her once (at her job, unrelated to our private therapy) after she had changed her cell phone number and i couldn't remember what it was. she was quite calm about it; she said that 3 other clients had found her the same way.
i don't know how i would feel if she had an email address or AIM address or family info online. I don't think I would touch them, though i'd have that moment of temptation.
I think all of that searching that you did came from a natural curiousity about your therapist, especially if she didn't tell you anything about herself. Once I had a dream of my therapist being a child, and realized it was in part due to my desire to know what she was 'really' like beyond the professional trappings. I told her about it. She has since sort of 'broken the spell' by talking about her personal life. I know certain details -- like what neighborhood her house is in -- but not specifics -- like which house is hers. I think it's natural to be curious about someone like a therapist who in a sense has power over you due to their vast knowledge of your feelings.
i think your therapist has to realize that the internet is a powerful search tool.if she does not want information about her personal life on the internet, then it is her responsibility to make sure that information about her personal life is not freely available on the internet.
on the other hand, maybe _you_ were the learning tool for her to see that. if it affected your relationship such that she can no longer 'trust' you enough to be your therapist, then you are no longer getting what you need either.
you seem to be handling this really well; i understand if you have moments of feeling down about it.
i just wanted to throw my two cents in --
--books
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