Posted by fallsfall on June 15, 2003, at 20:12:03
I've been seeing my therapist for 8 1/2 years now. In the last couple of months we have been having a conflict - I would think she was mad at me (I still think this...) and that would make my self-esteem dive. I was spending so much time worrying about my self-esteem that I couldn't work on anything else. We had been talking about my finding another therapist in September, but I couldn't wait that long. This is really amazing because I am VERY dependent. So I told her that I was going to move on and she agreed that it was a good idea.
My question for all of you is: What do we need to do to terminate cleanly?
Last week we talked about what I need to look for in a new therapist. Next time we will talk about what was good in our therapy and what was bad (so I can bring the good things with me and leave the bad ones behind). Also things she thought I really should do but didn't.
I want to ask her if she will ever forgive me for the bad thing I did that started this all off. But if she says no, then I'll be crushed. If she says that she forgave me a long time ago I won't believe her. I guess I would only believe her if she said that she was working on it. The other option is to never bring it up, but then I'll never know. I can't decide what will be worst.
What other topics are helpful to cover?
poster:fallsfall
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