Posted by katia on May 16, 2003, at 1:20:58
In reply to Re: Sure thing, sweets, posted by whiterabbit on April 20, 2003, at 9:21:16
> Thank you Ayuda, you are correct. My therapist knows this doctor very well as they work together in a dual diagnosis program at the hospital. She really is a wise and wonderful person and would never generalize in that manner ("All Pakistani men are like that"). She wouldn't have given me her personal opinion on this particular doctor
> except that I was so obviously distressed by his
> criticism. I've been trying very hard to make progress on his strict instructions of NO alcohol and NO coffee, but espresso and red wine are like
> MAJOR joys in my life (I mean, what does that leave me? Just chocolate). Still, despite my sincere efforts to cut down, Dr. Happy isn't interested in "progress" and has been irritated with me for not dropping these two passions immediately. Then he threatened to discharge me as his patient if I didn't meet his deadline for having blood drawn.
>
> I have no question about his competency...despite my dismal psychiatric history, he was the first psychiatrist to recommend therapy for me (what's up with that??) and I'm doing quite well on medication. I just wish that he would can the attitude.
> -GracieYou're paying him - bottom line. Let's define roles here and stop confusing issues. he's "supposedly" a professional - you shouldn't have to try and interpret to this degree about "his stuff". That's for his "doctor"/therapist (if it even exists)to work out, not for his client. No matter what the prestige or degrees, if it doesn't feel safe and helpful and you've explored these issues with your therapist, drop him like a hot potato. No need to figure him out or what his prejudices are etc. don't waste anymore precious mental energy on this man. it's not your job. you shouldn't have to do that. get a new pdoc.
that's my advice.
Katia
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