Posted by ayuda on April 19, 2003, at 20:40:44
In reply to Re: Sure thing, sweets » white rabbit, posted by janejj on April 18, 2003, at 23:04:53
> Hi Gracie,
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> I'm sorry, this isn't personal against you, I am just a bit overly sensitive when it come it things like this. I regret posting in such a heated manner !
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> Sorry to hear about your divorce....I hope you find some peace soon...
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> God Bless, janejj :)I am not trying to defend bigotry or racism here, but I will defend a therapist's view of a pdoc. When I was in Baltimore my pdoc was kind of strange -- a nice enough man, but you could tell he had his own issues. One of his "compulsions" was that he had this little note-taking thingy that he typed into the entire time you were talking to him -- he rarely looked up at you. I had plans each visit to do something to make him look up at me -- nothing evil, just stop in the middle of my sentences and have long silences, so he would have to look up to see if I was still with it. It was fairly unnerving of him, but not earth-shattering.
My therapist had other patients of his, and on one visit, I just had to mention that he seemed distant. She asked if it was the incessant typing, and I said YES, that is part of it. Came to find out that her other patients had also complained about the exact same thing, and many left him because they didn't feel he cared. He was a good friend of a co-worker of mine, and he did diagnose me well and tried the best meds with me, and even through his typing (probably typing down every word I said, which is the same as them tape-recording then transcribing, kind of), he DID pay attention, he was hearing me, he was just neurotic himself.
However, my point is, that by my therapist talking about his "manner," she was not running him down, she knew what the complaints were about him. From what Gracie said, it could very well be that her therapist knows something about the man and how he has treated other patients, male and female, and has come to a conclusion after ruling out other possibilities. It may also be (if this is a small mental health community or hmo) that she knows of his attitudes personally but doesn't consider it to be professional to say, I know this for a fact, so she puts it as a possibility. From Gracie's story, what I got was that her therapist has inside info on this man, and not that she was being racist or bigoted. But maybe I think too highly of humanity and give people too much credit?
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