Posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 12, 2002, at 11:46:13
In reply to Re: Oddness, quirkiness, etc. and bullying, posted by fuzzymind on December 12, 2002, at 5:08:16
> TH worst was when I was in a resource/study center in HS, a kid called me chink twice because I was talking to someone.....the teacher supervising was right there...2 feet way and didn't say anything. Even more upsetting, I was tallking to the bullying abusive acquaintance, no kidding...he was also talking but the racist jerk didn't say anything to him. What a prison life is.
---------------------I'm sorry you have to put up with such bullshit, especially when you're feeling down.
Your abusive friend sounds like a shallow freak. What do you think he's motivated by? Do content, happy people feel the need to constantly belittle others, and make overt attempts to demonstrate their worth and power? Those are the kind of actions taken by a person who needs the constant approval of the people around him. It may look like he's in charge, but to anyone with intelligence it's obvious that he's arrogant and insecure. You can't change what other people think when they witness someone bully you, but you can know that you're not the one with the need for public approval and aggrandisement, and the other smart people in the room will know as well. I know it sounds cliche to say, but those kind of actions are seriously retarded in someone past 6th grade. Whether they appear to or not, most people recognize this.
Understatement and reserve are the traits of well bred people. Use them to your advantage, and you'll simply come off classier, wiser, and more established than your desperate, ranting friend. If anyone else is impressed with his behavior, they're not really on a level worth worrying about anyway. You're better than those people. Feel it. Be it. Nobody else's opinion should ever carry more importance with you than your own. That's essential to happiness and maturity.
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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