Posted by rayww on November 21, 2002, at 10:28:39
In reply to Re: Looks more like Whole Hearted Stealing., posted by bluedog on November 21, 2002, at 3:05:45
People here seem to be basically untrusting. Perhaps you didn't read far enough into this to discover this is a technique a person can do alone, and it is free. There are a lot of variations to it, and a person who meditates can nearly discover it on their own. I came really close, (before I met the person who volunteered free of charge to lead me through this), but I was far enough away that I knew there was a missing link.
My opinion is that WHH is something everyone should learn in kindergarden. That is, facing your emotions while they are raw, rather than shelfing them to rot and fester for 30 years (as I did). It's based on the premise that emotion stacks up and if you can trace an emotion back to it's root, then get inside and press on that emotion, it will disolve, and the stack on top of it will then crumble and be gone. This has to be thorough and you must remain with it until you can go to a situation that caused the emotion and feel peace in your heart in it. I helped my brother over the phone heal an incident that traced back to loss of a pet from his very early childhood. This is real. It helps. It is a healer.
Listen to your own emotional "pangs", and they will give you clues that you too have a trail. For instance before I learned how to do this, every time I would meet someone who had known my father (died at age 39) I would feel tugs on my heart strings. I can now meet these people as friends, and the casual acquaintences that they are.
We develop patterns of dealing with loss and pain in our early childhood, and that's why in WHH meditation the goal is to trace things back to birth trauma, since that is in everyone's memory somewhere. If we can undo our birth trauma, and release whatever has been linked to that trail, we are set free to adjust to each emotional situation for what it is in the present, without the possibility of having it be the "straw that breaks the camel's back". The first few times you connect to your emotional trails, you won't go back that far, but if you are aware, once the journey begins, other things will begin to surface. Those who have experienced extreme trama and severe abuse should not attempt this alone, rather in the company of a trusted professional who knows and understands similar techniques.
Why do you use the word, "cult?" People who learn this are very happy to teach it to others. One personal success I had with a very good friend, who was harboring bad feelings about her sister: I briefly explained the process, printed off the information from the INternet, she tried it one time and those ill feelings disolved. She was able to have a heart to heart talk with her sister and they get along just fine now. Another person couldn't get on with life since the death of her mother. I met with her one time and helped bring her from tears and desperation, thinking she should never have been born, and wishing she were dead, to the oposite: knowing Jesus wanted her to be born, and feeling peace in her heart concerning her mother's death.
These are personal, and I don't particularily wish to be condemned "cult".
Bipolars seem to have a hard time leaning where to file and store emotion. I found by shelfing my emotion I got to the point where I would feel opposite to what I should be feeling. When I feel emotion building up I can now take a time out for 15 min, half hour, or even longer if necessary, and heal the emotion. I honestly say, it helps. It doesn't take away the mood swings, but it heals the interferring obstacles to progress.
One thing I'm not sure you'll catch in the reading, that I find extremely useful to use in getting back to roots is to identify a "love youself" image. It can be your first recollection of feeling the emotion of love, and it can be linked to a toy, a pet, a grandparent, aunt, or anyone other than mother and father, since there are many negatives there as well. But, some thing you were able to love. While trying to enter your pain (fear, anger, sadness, shame) you also think of your love yourself image at the same time, and if you still cannot reach it, with your eyes closed all the time, focus on the bright light inside your eyes. Go ahead, close your eyes and you'll see what I mean. Pay attention to the sensations inside your body, especially in your chest, and physically you may feel a releasing, or a purging of something you have never noticed before. Not everyone will be able to succeed in this. But, if you have been searching for reasons you feel or do what you do, and are wanting answers, and are up against a brick wall, you are ready. This didn't take away my bipolar moods, but it has helped me identify them for what they are.
I love you. have a good day.
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