Posted by Ginjoint on November 11, 2002, at 7:52:54
In reply to Has anyone successfully lost a therapist?, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2002, at 12:52:22
Oh, holy hell, Dinah. I do feel with/for you -- just when I admitted to my pdoc that I was terrified she'd get pregnant again (and leave), that was when she told me she was pregnant again...and going on several weeks maternity leave. Truly a moment from the Kick in the Crotch School of Timing. I digress, but only to demonstrate my empathy.
Hmmm. Sweetness, the only thing I can think to say is that until your therapist makes up his mind, this is going to suck. You will be on pins and needles. BUT....although he may not "give good phone", IF he does move, some phone sessions seem like something that can ease your spirits more than you may think. I don't like phone sessions either, but sometimes just hearing my pdoc's voice for five minutes calms me down during a hard time. It's a connection, even though it may not be as "intimate" as you'd like/need.
Something else....with my pdoc's upcoming absence, it's obviously forcing me to imagine getting along without her. I have been seeing her for 2 1/2 years now, and am very attached. But now, part of me is curious to see how I'll do...Dinah, go for a ride with this sort of curiosity. Daydream with it -- let your inner spunkiness, which has been heavily cloaked under depression, out for a spin.
I know that my situation isn't the same as yours MAY be, in that my pdoc is coming back (or so she says!) But until you know things for sure, as a temporary coping mechanism, think of that tough spunky core that I KNOW you have, (hell, give her a name even!), and let her watch out for you until things are smooth once more. Even if it's only for a coupla minutes at a time. I'll be honest, this doesn't always work for me....but, sometimes it does.
Remember, in cyberspace people can hear you scream. That's what we're here for.
Ginjoint
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