Posted by judy1 on July 9, 2002, at 10:47:08
In reply to Re: Holding rage in a cage, posted by shar on July 9, 2002, at 0:11:01
I think that's a really good distinction- the anger in the here and now (like Terra said against spouse) or therapist... and the anger in the past, probably against your abuser. One of the hospitals that has a program we're looking into, sent an article that said the abused child identifies with his/her abuser and the word that got to me was loyalty- I know all kinds of studies have been done on that, the 'Stockholm' syndrome, etc. But I do know that when i have a flashback and my therapist tries to get me to feel anger, it is terrifying. My abuser is dead so it's not abandonment or maybe to the child part it is, and maybe after you hear things over and over as a child it is difficult to think otherwise. I apologize for the different directions, but it is all part of my inability to express anger. And thank you Shar, for giving me a realistic time-table. take care, judy
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