Posted by Parisss on February 10, 2004, at 13:29:32
In reply to thanks, especially the parenting part, posted by judy1 on January 6, 2004, at 10:35:04
I congratulate you on your stand to make a stand for yourself and family.
I don't want to throw a wrench in what is a positive step for many, but I have to also share an opposite view.
My Daughter and I went to therapy for a few years. The psychologist was upfront that she was a proactive supporter of the child's role. Well she was. By the time she was through with us I was painted out to be a beast and anyone else that knew me thought I spoiled my daughter rotten. Prior to this, my daughter and I were best of friends and after she thought I was the root of all her problems, not the fact that she was now diagnosed Bipolar (and I was too in the sessions)
The whole thing esculated from getting some help for a teen that was straying to me almost losing her and me being hospitalized for toxicity levels of meds. These same meds MADE me crazy and I lost my Federal job of 15 years to a disability retirement. I went from a single mom of middle class to poverty and eventually a period of insanity linked to the plethora of meds that I was taking. I have to tell you at this point that this therapist just told the Doc her theories on us and the Doc wrote the scripts without her own analysis. This same therapist I think was a thrill seeker and made a "mountain out of a mole-hill" with us.
I am very leary of therapy now! I don't want to focus on my woes, I want positive, forward help. I don't want to rehash a past (yes, even my strange and abusive upbringing) that can not be changed.
I decided that a couple of my dear friends that lend me an ear when I need to vent and a more conservative Doctor on the dishing out meds has been more effective for me.
Advice? Be careful that you have a therapist that is moving you in the right direction and not making more waves than you already have!