Posted by SandraMaY on December 9, 2003, at 1:12:29
In reply to Re: Miscarriage » Dena, posted by judy1 on December 8, 2003, at 9:54:37
I recently had to terminate(not abort) a pregnancy, it is a termination because it was at 18 weeks, anything after 12 weeks isnt an abortion.
Anyways i dont know if this can relate to mis-carriage, but it seems all the people i have talked to about it have only had experience with mis-carriage, termination isnt something you hear of every day. Either way its been 6 weeks since the termination and I started on anti-depressants 2 weeks ago (efexor-xr) i would like to know how other women have coped with a loss like this. I have the regrets of whether or not it was the right thing to do, we dont yet have a post mortom report about what exactly was wrong with my 'angel'. my husband and family have been very supportive, but the only turn we could make to help me help myself was to take the drugs.
I know it hasnt been long since my loss and we did expect i would be upset, letting the hormones settle was the first excuse people use.
I also know i might seem nasty for terminating my baby, when people lose them all the time.. but the problems they picked up on ultra-sound were too much for a baby to have to put up with for a good quality of life, thats assuming it survived after a full term pregnancy & birth.
Bottom line I wanted to share my loss, and i came here to see if anyone could share my pain in the same way, other than mis-carriage.
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