Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 22, 2008, at 13:22:40
In reply to Re: Sex, Faith, Divorce...Anyone Relate? » sassyfrancesca, posted by rayww on July 18, 2008, at 16:49:00
> > > A fruitful life can bring much pleasure.
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> > There isn't any pleasure in being alone OR without sex.
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> Beg to differ. This isn't about others' feelings, but about how I (underline...I) feel about my situation.You just have to make your mind up about it. Making up my mind? I feel the way I feel.
My mother, handicapped as she was, has lived a very enjoyable life for the most part since she was 39. She lived near sisters and children, but even if she didn't, she belonged to clubs, and socialized a lot. This has nothing to do with my experience or feelings.
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> Aha moment. She was married for eternity though, and has that to look forward to. When her husband (my dad) died, they were very much in love, and she has never looked for another man.
She was fortunate; this is not my experience.
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> He has been gone for 40 years. I'm sure she was where you are after 3. No way to know that. It takes time, and then you're hardened just a bit to it.I won't ever be "hardened."
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> "This too will pass"Not necessarily; there is no way to know that. We cannot speak for others' feelings and thoughts.
I realize that a lot of people aren't capable of hearing and validating feelings.
That is what I needed....someone who could relate.
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