Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 18, 2008, at 12:42:02
In reply to Re: Sex, Faith, Divorce...Anyone Relate? » sassyfrancesca, posted by rayww on July 17, 2008, at 17:57:49
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> > P.S. I am wondering how long I can hang on and not have sex; "deprivation breeds desire."
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> Nothing wrong with desire, it comes and then it goes. Do you want to hear my advice???I don't need advice (I am a counselor by the way)...I wanted to hear from someone who could understand what I have been going through.
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> Usually with desire comes a longing to be with another person, specifically the one who you have been cultivating a relationship with lately.
> So, don't cultivate.Huh? Don't cultivate a relationship? That is what a relationship IS....cultivation in part.
I am not in a relationship.>
> Parable: When a farmer cultivates soil it puts oxygen into it and makes it more fertile so the new crop will flourish. If the soil is not cultivated, and no seed is planted, the weeds will grow. You pull the weeds out one at a time, making sure you go down to the root each time, and if you get them before they go to seed, they'll never come back.
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> If you have already cultivated and planted your garden it is not too late to go after the weeds. Carefully reach between each plant and pull them out one by one. Soon you will have a beautiful fruitful garden. Not sure i get what you are saying.
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> Only you know what the weeds in your life are, and only you can pull them out. you would have to define "weed." Basically the "weed" in my life (as I stated) is being alone and without sex.I'd say sex is a weed, unless it is a seed that you have carefully nurtured, and until you meet your charming prince, I'd consider it dormant.
I had already said that I was celibate.
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> A fruitful life can bring much pleasure.There isn't any pleasure in being alone OR without sex.
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