Posted by Twinleaf on January 24, 2014, at 10:46:39
In reply to Another ramble. » Twinleaf, posted by SLS on January 24, 2014, at 10:07:32
Learning to "wear a shield" against abuse is of course something we must all do occasionally in our daily lives; it seems like a strange goal to have in a board devoted to mental health. A reasonable degree of moderation would allow a much better goal: the increasing development of mutual trust, understanding and compromise - a goal that leads to better mental health. The present goal seems to me to lead to excessive anxiety, watchfulness and suppressed anger - signs of persons who are coping with trauma. Why would one visit a mental health site for that?
I think the criteria used to block me are too severe; they are the same ones that so many people disliked and complained about 5 years ago. I would like to see more occasional, moderate criteria, reserved for clear instances of hurtfulness (not just hurt feelings caused by reasonable reactions to one's own actions), and applied equally to everyone. Reasonable as that is, sadly, I don't think it is going to happen.
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