Posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2009, at 11:13:00
In reply to Re: deputies get hurt-regular posters get hurt too » zenhussy, posted by Sigismund on February 28, 2009, at 16:36:25
> Twinleaf started this thread called "New beginnings" with I think the intent to start a discussion. How then if we can't have a discussion on Administration regarding rules and how they are enforced and how they benefit or distress posters can this board be much of anything ... I thought Twinleaf started a worthwhile discussion and yet it seems to me that Dr. Bob doesn't really want a discussion. I don't think anyone would have found Twinleaf's post upsetting except maybe someone that might know or think they were the targeted one in her statement.
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> And why can we not openly address a issue that seems to spark so much real feelings. I always thought a healthy, I felt XXX when you said this can go a long ways toward those posters that want to have open dialogue.
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> So this is why I am shocked, alarmed and sad. Babble it seems is a hard place to discuss all that might be on our minds. It seems that no where on this site we might have good discussions that might actually yield new methods of how things should be done because too often it disintegrates into someone getting blocked to the detriment of the actual discussion--as it did in this case.
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> Babble is not really someplace I can voice how I really feel. And while it might seem like here and now I am saying how I feel I am holding back trying to be as civil as possible yet say what I want to say. And sometimes, just sometimes, I think we need that "holding back of what I really want to say" suspended while we sort out regulations and whatnot.
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> I am sorry because Babble has helped me alot but in the recent past I find I feel it is better to not post even though I know I will receive good advice and help. It is not the posters or deputies I feel sad about it is the policies of Dr. Bob and his seemly unapproachability.
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> rskI welcome healthy discussion here. I agree, I-statements can go a long ways. It's hard to have a good discussion if people feel targeted. Thank you for working to express yourself in a civil way. A balance between being open and holding back helps keep discussions productive. It may be tempting to suspend rules, but that can have its own complications.
This discussion has already yielded a couple new ways of doing things. Still, I feel sad that my policies and unavailability may lead some of you to miss out on good advice and help from each other.
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> over the years this board's archives have recorded threads about your continued invitations to e-mail you directly--yet many find they wait weeks or months for a response and others have written they've never received a response to their numerous inquiries.
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> do you think that posters might feel hurt from the lack of response from you?
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> what do you think you could do to help support those posters who take the time to involve themselves in your site by writing to you w/ their concerns?
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> zenhussy> I am speaking for myself. I think that ignoring the posters could be triggering for some.
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> I am curious if you think it is better for Babble if you're here passing out 52 week blocks?
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> I would also like to know your take on the fact that several people question the length and math of your blocks?
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> I would like to know if you think that the board is in a good place right now?
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> fayeroeSure, I think posters may feel hurt when I don't respond. The deputies are responsive, but they may not be able to address some concerns fully. And of course they're not me.
What do you think posters could do to help support each other when I'm unavailable?
I think it's better for Babble to be civil. Reasonable people can disagree about how long blocks should be, or even whether there should be blocks at all. I think the board is probably a good place for some, a bad place for some, and an in-between place for some.
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> I really would like to talk to zazenducke
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> SigismundIt takes two to tango...
Hmm, and maybe in addition to hurt and anger, my unavailability also triggers longing?
Bob
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