Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 24, 2009, at 20:06:32
In reply to facing realities..., posted by twinleaf on February 24, 2009, at 19:15:08
Twinleaf,
I think the lack of responses could be seen as nobody really knows what to do because we have no control over the rules of this place. Dr. Bob sets the rules and the deputies enforce them on occasion.
We can explain till we are blue in the face, but Dr. BOb will not even respond in most cases, or I should say, responds in a unsatisfactory way. So people are more likely to just throw their arms up in disgust or they just give up. This has been the same story over and over again.
I think we should abandon the rules, it doesn't prevent others from saying what they want anyway. They are not being fairly enforced, it doesn't prevent any hurt, if anything it creates more hurt because veiled insults hurt more than just hearing the truth. With the rules, people appear "good" because they can walk the fine line of his rules of civility, pushing it as far as they can, or they use veiled insults, it still causes hurt feelings, even when it is "civil" within Babble standards.
I don't know for sure, but I can guess a very high percentage of people who have been blocked, was due to complaints about the rules of this place and how unfairly they seem to be enforced.
I just don't know twinleaf, it seems there is less and less interest in this place, people are just leaving because they give up.
Have you looked into other similar sites? I know of at least 2 which I am happy about. I think what pulls me back to babble is some of the people I don't want to lose contact with. But then I get weaved into the web again.
I really should listen to my T, but it is hard to leave some people I care about.
poster:HappyChaiTea
thread:881542
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