Posted by happyflower on January 7, 2008, at 18:30:50
In reply to Re: support and education, posted by Dr. Bob on January 7, 2008, at 13:20:01
> > we seem to be repremanding on Babble for something that is a cognitive thinking error
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> I don't want to make people feel criticized, though I do see how that can happen. What I'd like is to promote interaction that's supportive and educational.Perhaps maybe gently reminding people of better ways to state things could be more supportive and educational than blocking them. A lot of people do this kind of thing without even knowing they are doing anything wrong.
Kinda like spanking a kid who did something wrong, all they learned is to be afraid and to hit, but not really the desired behavior. I really don't believe for the most part that people overgenerelize to cause bad feelings in others.
> > We are a mental health site, but should be more acceptant of those who have problems
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> We accept everyone, I just don't think it works to accept all behaviors.Do you belive that most people overgeneralize to harm others? If not, than why punish everyone who does this cognitive error, especially if they are not doing to hurt others? If the poster is civil and overgeneralizes about a product or viewpoint, it is different to me than someone who is uncivil torwards an individual and used the overgeneralization to make the poster or reader to feel bad.
I feel the reader needs to assume some of the risk and responsiblity in reading the boards, just like any other forum.
I also believe if we are going to start doing cognitive therapy here, than there should be some information about how to write things in a more acceptable way, keeping in mind it might take some a long time for some to learn this technique as many bad habits have been learned and have been used for many years. It isn't something that most people can learn overnight, in fact a lot of people don't even realize that they do this behavior. If we just block posters without people understanding on why or how to improve, how will that be supportive and educational? I feel this is a rule that can be enforced, but does it really need blocking in order to do it?
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> Bob
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