Posted by one woman cine on January 18, 2007, at 15:53:46
In reply to Re: pressure vs. coerce (PS), posted by Honore on January 18, 2007, at 12:31:32
I appreciate your post and the points are well taken. I am also inclined to feel the effects of the idea of "ganging up" - & I have share your beliefs about private communication versus public.
However, the issue for me is the issue of suicide et al (& the attending behaviors) - & the repeated patterns that that deleterious to both the poster and the pb community as a whole.
The answer to this is not silence. Either silencing the poster (or shaming) or silencing the issue seems to have cumulative negative effects.
& it is true that one could choose to choose to ignore the posts, however - it is human nature IMO to want to help, no matter what kind of space we might be in.
I think, for me, historically I withdraw myself from a situation when I have no hope of helping or creating a better situation than the one that I am being presented with.
If I put myself in posters "xx" (& not necessarily deneb) & people began to ignore me, I would probably begin to feel uncomfortable and alienated, at best. I do not want that for anyone.
Likewise, I would hope someone could see things from my perspective of trying to help with a distressing topic/post and genuinely try to not create the same pattern repeatedly.
poster:one woman cine