Posted by Dinah on July 11, 2005, at 18:48:32
In reply to Re: the next best thing, second try, posted by Dr. Bob on July 6, 2005, at 2:06:20
> > > So it would be OK for them to read a small board, even if it didn't have any openings, as long as they wished to participate = join some small board?
> > That would be a definite step in the right direction. Since it would decrease the chance of someone stumbling into what looked like a situation where they would be welcomed, when in actuality they would not.
> Let me try this again. The key is them knowing what they're getting into?
That's one key.
> > My feelings were hurt when you slapped my hand over the party
> Sorry about that! Can you give me a link? I'd like to take another look...
N'important. I deserved it. But it still hurt.
> > Psychological feels so warm and cozy... What a testament to the warm and welcoming nature of Babblers.
> Babblers are great! But the same porridge can be just right for some and too hot or too cold for others...
Too true. But why let people smell or taste porridge that may be just right for them, but that they are not allowed to eat?
> > the point I am unwilling to concede is that there are more polite and less polite (polite in the considerate and thoughtful meaning of the word, not as in meaningless protocol), and more divisive and less divisive, ways of achieving the same goals, and that more polite and less divisive ways are far preferable.
> I agree. So the goal is to come up with a more polite and less divisive way?
Yes, but from the thread below I would say that you don't appear to me to be all that open to that. I may be wrong, but in what ways are you trying to come up with a more polite and less divisive way?
I really do appreciate your trying again, and I do think you put time and effort into your answer. I don't feel at all dismissed, and I truly appreciate that.