Posted by finelinebob on May 14, 2004, at 16:46:32
In reply to Re: Pardon my seeking a friendly label... I apologise » 64bowtie, posted by Larry Hoover on May 14, 2004, at 14:18:01
> > Hope you continue to bring good stuff.
> Sorry to disappoint. Bob won't apologize. He'll never admit he was wrong. He'll never admit his decisions were grossly unfair. I'm just trying to warn people. This is not a safe environment.
Pardon me for butting in, since I missed that episode and I've been away too long to have had a chance to get to know you. Furthermore, I'm not trying to defend Dr. Bob or his policies (he can do that quite fine without me) nor am I saying that I really know anything about his rules (outside of what's published here, I don't), but...
The more people there are on a public bulletin board like Babble, the greater the variation. The greater the variation, the greater the chance that a simple set of "rules" will break or that someone will have these rules applied to them an unfair manner (from at least one perspective). The moment moderators start publicly second guessing and reversing decisions is the moment that board goes straight to hell for everybody. Immediately, everybody's exception to the rules need to be addressed with equal forgiveness and no discipline is deserved. The only way a moderator can stay on top of the chaos is to keep the simple, unavoidably flawed set of rules, make firm decisions on them, and not apologize about decisions unless there is a general outcry about a decision.
Even then, umps don't reverse their decisions when 50,000 fans, 60 ballers and 20 coaches scream about who was safe and who was out.
I'm not saying any of this to say who was right and who was wrong in what happened to you.
I **am** saying it because people here that I **do** know have jumped in, saying how valuable you are to the community. If your anger pushes you to leave Babbleland, I hope that sometime soon you can step back from it find some perspective for it, and come back ready to give us more of who you are.