Posted by Dr. Bob on February 18, 2003, at 8:33:20
In reply to Just want you to be aware of this, Dr. Bob, posted by noa on February 16, 2003, at 19:15:03
Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob
Posted by IsoM on February 17, 2003, at 13:16:56
In reply to http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20030203/msgs/201131.html
Bob, did you read yaya's post properly? She (he?) is Oriental herself (I think she mentioned she was Japanese) & was only pointing out to fuzzymind that parents' reaction to & handling of their children's problems are often affected by their cultural background. There was *NOTHING* unkind or uncivil in that statement. It's simply a fact that different cultures (especially in the past before globalization) have raised their children with somewhat diff values.
Being aware of the differences in your cultural background helps one gain insight into one's childhood environment when raised in a diff culture than other children you grew up with.
----Re: please be civil » IsoM
Posted by yaya on February 17, 2003, at 14:08:48
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by IsoM on February 17, 2003, at 13:16:56
Thanks for coming to my rescue. I wasn't sure if I was "getting my hand slapped" for my post, but I was certainly feeling guilty for possibly contributing in some way to the current dissention and bad feelings, which was not my intention. I was feeling so bad that I thought it best to just walk away for now, because I didn't want to react.
I do happen to be the female child of a Japanese mother (my father was an American GI) and I feel the cultural differences my mother brought to America caused a lot of difficulty for me as a child. I am able to rationalize that had I been raised in Japan, things that affected my childhood here may not have been a big deal in Japan. There is a certain amount of stoicism that my mother's generation (she was born in 1928) felt was proper and "normal". This, in no way, is a racist opinion or prejudicial. I was merely pointing out that cultural differences can impact children when raised by people with different cultural ideals and expectations.
Thanks, again, for coming to my defense. I really appreciate. I hope I have clarified my position, and I apologize to any who may have been offended.
> Bob, did you read yaya's post properly? She (he?) is Oriental herself (I think she mentioned she was Japanese) & was only pointing out to fuzzymind that parents' reaction to & handling of their children's problems are often affected by their cultural background. There was *NOTHING* unkind or uncivil in that statement. It's simply a fact that different cultures (especially in the past before globalization) have raised their children with somewhat diff values.
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> Being aware of the differences in your cultural background helps one gain insight into one's childhood environment when raised in a diff culture than other children you grew up with.----
Re: please be civil » yaya
Posted by Phil on February 17, 2003, at 19:54:08
In reply to Re: please be civil » IsoM, posted by yaya on February 17, 2003, at 14:08:48
I don't see how you could have offended anyone.
It was a thoughtful post.----
Re: please be civil » yaya
Posted by IsoM on February 18, 2003, at 2:41:26
In reply to Re: please be civil » IsoM, posted by yaya on February 17, 2003, at 14:08:48
I didn't want you to feel bad about something you intended to be helpful. I'm a sucker for mixed races in people. I wish everyone was mixed race, more or less. It brings out the beauty of mankind. One of my best friends is a blonde (nearly grey now) American who married an Indonesian guy. They have the most beautiful kids, all adults now. She always fondly & lovingly referred to her children as "mutts". I wish that I were a mutt & less fish belly white than I am.
Culturally, mixed race children can have a tough time growing up if most other people in their area are single race. Having a mixed heritage may bring out the best in people but makes it hard to balance their home life with the outside world. We all can learn much from the problems mixed families have to deal with.
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