Posted by Zo on October 30, 2002, at 17:06:53
In reply to Re: Educate members, posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2002, at 19:43:09
> Maybe we should just agree to disagree on this.
Translation: We are going to do it my way.
Once again, Bob, I marvel at how difficult,how nearly impossible for you to respond to the heart and soul your posters present, over and over and over again, acting repeatedly on an *idea* of the best interest of the board to which the board itself objects.
This, precisely, is what disqualifies the site as an online community, but makes it instead a controlled group, led by the protypical patriarch, and these are the two fundamental untruths about PyschoBabble that I protest.
I do post when a friend sends me a link, and am glad to speak to the fact that in my view, letting a drug rep onto the board in the first place is but one more chipping away at your vulnerable members' trust. This was a trusted place. I resent it highly that your best advice is to tell this population to be even *more* on its toes - and what you will be monitoring is how civil they are in response to yet another insult to their intelligence and to their true needs. It is as if I created a support place for homeless persons - and kept watch and cautioned and banned them on their table manners.
Shall this post be deleted too, oh little dictator? Oh ye of teensy-weensy faith?
Glad to have left. Much affection for the people here, but the structure and administration of the site is frankly crazy-making, in violation of, well, first of all, the Hypocratic Oath. As such. . .nice little passive-aggressive set-up you've got going here. Harvesting narcisstic supplies with archaic but still-effective machinery, and - I said it in my first protest and it's the same now - hurting other people.
Um, Bob. Normal people *care* when it is brought to their attention that they are being hurtful. Normal people have an inborn *strong* desire to attend to that.
It isn't normal to have the *ability* to let it all roll off you. To turn, at every juncture, to the abstracting, rational mind for answers. Those answers will be, per se, wildly inaccurate.
As before, I think it is wrong of you as a person and as a physician to allow your own issues free reign on this site - ownership be damned. This has nothing to do with money. It has to do with what is normal behavior, normal empathy, with what is right. After a certain point, I thought it was the right thing to tell you that your issues becloud the site and are harmful to others - and it is still the right thing.
And of course those who wish to enable you may continue to do so, and those who wish to tiptoe on your very peculiar eggshells may choose to, or may need to, or may not know they deserve anything better.
I want them to know that they do.
I want people to know, It's not them, it is, unfortunately, you.
Zo
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