Posted by jay2112 on June 17, 2021, at 16:30:11
In reply to I am petrified of saying 'no' to people., posted by SLS on June 17, 2021, at 1:59:28
> Hi.
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> I don't think I ever disclosed this here. I am petrified of saying "no" to people. My psychologist and I have been working on this character flaw for years. At my last visit, she insisted that, for the sake of my therapy, I should walk up to strange women in shopping malls and ask them out for a date so that I can learn how easily other people say "no". I told her, "No f*ck*ng way!" She smiled and said, "Go home. You're cured."
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> - SillyWell, Silly Scott, sounds like you have a good therapist! From my experience as a social worker, this is linked to "confrontation avoidance", but if it's specifically with women/dating, well that's another ball game..lol. Either way, I have had these problems all my life.
Keep on with the therapy! And, step outside your comfort zone (I should take my own advice!!..lol) and just try out the "no thing"....even just once in awhile. I think you may be able to feel more comfortable with doing so, once you get 'conditioned' to it.
Keep posting...best!
Jay :)
Humans punish themselves endlessly
for not being what they believe they should be.
-Don Miguel Ruiz-
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