Posted by ed_uk2010 on February 11, 2015, at 17:27:12
In reply to Re: OCD Dont know where to go, posted by Bill82 on February 11, 2015, at 16:37:06
>I also feel like I'm always lying, so for example I feel like I am making something up when I wrote this to you and am stretching the facts and that I might not have ocd etc.
That's very typical of OCD. They're often called 'obsessions of doubt', as you probably know.
>one of the main things I worry about is I will become impotent or have my testosterone lowered, stupid I know but then again so is my brain haha.
Sexual obsessions are common in OCD - and distressingly difficult to discuss.
I believe you need to practice 'acceptance'. Accept your obsession.... it's OK that you may have lowered testosterone. Although I expect your testosterone is perfectly normal, what would happen if it was low? Nothing serious really. If it was low at any point you could be prescribed testosterone replacement and you'd be fine. The consequences of having low testosterone would be far less severe than the consequences of OCD.
And the impotence. Accept it. Again, it's highly unlikely you have any medical reason for being impotent at your age. But most men would struggle to get an erection if they were in a state of psychological distress. So if you do experience distress, you may struggle too. But accept it. What are the consequences of not getting an erection? Again, they are less severe that the consequences of OCD. Having an erection isn't much benefit when you've got severe OCD. And think... millions of people live with erectile problems caused by medical disorders. Any erectile problems you have will be temporary and psychological. If you accept that you may be temporarily impotent when under stress, you would do yourself a favour. Most men would not get an erection when under immense stress. This is perfectly normal. The more you accept this is a normal feature of being a man the less anxiety you'll have.... and then you won't have a problem with erections anyway. Even if you did, it's not life-threatening, and it's treatable. So perhaps.... just think 'well, what if I was impotent?' What if you were? You'd still be here. You could be treated, you could live a happy life. Much happier than you are right now. Impotence is generally a lot easier to treat than OCD!
If I don't get an erection it normally means I'm not in the mood. I'm not always in the mood. A lot of people aren't. It doesn't imply a major problem, I'll be in the mood another time.
Sometimes, it's not possible to force the thoughts out of your head until you've considered..... are the consequences of the obsessions really as bad as the obsessions themselves? They almost never are. It would be easier to be impotent and not have OCD. It could be treated more easily. Hopefully, if you think this to yourself, the obsessions will reduce and you'll realise you don't actually have an erectile problem either.
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