Posted by linkadge on August 25, 2013, at 20:17:45
In reply to Re: A peculiar kind of depression, posted by linkadge on August 25, 2013, at 20:04:12
It seems that you are focusing on things you want that you can't have. This is a common thought pattern in depression.
For instance, a depressed millionire might complain of failure for not having 30 million like a co-worker he/she is jealous of. Sounds impossible but if the mind is off ballance, then the external is not the problem. The internal tries to convince the individual that the external is the problem.
You can chose to focus on the things you *do* have that make your life worth while. Alternatively, if it is a relationship you desire, you may wish to look outside of your work. Try a relationship website.Pain and pleasure cannot coexist. If you find a lover that meets all of your desires, then you may feel fewer feelings for the other.
This may not be the case however. Certain individuals may have model spouses yet still fall into lust after another.
For a depressive mindset, it is often not about what the individual has, it is what they don't have.
Also, if possible, get a job where you're not in a cubicle. Rumination is more likely if one is in an environment lacking sufficient sensory stimulation. (just a thought).
Linkadge
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