Posted by linkadge on July 11, 2012, at 21:28:16
In reply to Re: Re Instead...., posted by mbrational on July 11, 2012, at 3:12:31
>It is so typical for children who were abused >physically (and yes smacking is physical abuse >and emotional abuse too because it is so >humilating))
It doesn't create a vicious cycle unless its excessive or unjustified. In WWII did we say....no we can't hurt anybody.....it will just create a vicious cycle! I was never hit without justification. There was never a time where I was hit where I would say....what was that for? I knew exactly what it was for and quite prefered my punshments quick. Just like grabbing a burner and getting a nib of pain. Maybe we should keep our children in a bubble to prevent them from feeling any pain at all. And while you're at it, disinfect every surface with Lysol.
Its when parents hit their children out of anger, rather than good reason, that the child does not understand this. Thats when they become frustrated and want to take their anger out on somebody else.
When I walked away from a spanking, I was not angry. Infact I was happer that we got it over with and I wasn't grounded for a month.
Answer me this.....
What hardens a criminal more: a few whacks with a cane or time behind bars? Get it over with.
Its all about how you want the bandaid taken off.
>they have the right to do the same to their own >children
They do.......if the child diserves it.
>particularly disgusting when those people become >teachers.
Heh. Maybe you should give it a try.